COMING OUT? YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Here are some places you can connect to support, information and resources. This can be a very tough time, but you do not have to go through it alone. The most important step is to commit to your own well-being and safety. If you are being bullied, harassed or facing being kicked out of your home, here are some ways you can connect to safety and support.
Come out to yourself.
Exploring Gender, Identity, Coming Out
I think I might be transgender…now what do I do?
Document on transgender youth, by transgender youth. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/youth/health/pamphlets/transgender.pdf
Gender Advocates is another great site with links to resources, info and support for trans youth, parents, and advocates.
Come out to a safe person.
This could be a close friend, a parent, a teacher or mentor. If you do not feel you have someone safe, consider connecting with a school counselor, or look for a Gay and Lesbian Center in your area through a Google search. I’ve included lots of links below so keep reading!
All of us in the community are here to support you, because we are dedicated to the cause of making this a safer and more equal world for LGBT people.
Are you being bullied?
You have a right to an education without harassment and this page will take you through the action steps to address your situation.National Toll Free & Confidential Hotline for LGBT and Questioning Youth
24 Hour Support: Suicide Hotline
Gay and Lesbian Center OC: weekly support group for youth ages 16-24.
Center Long Beach Youth Services
social activities, skillbuilding, youth support groups and peer mentoring for lgbt youth.http://www.centerlb.org/programs/myte.html
Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center provides a broad range of services for the LGBT community including free and low cost mental health and health care, HIV testing and many legal, social and cultural resources.
Jeff Griffith Youth Center and Transitional Housing
For LGBT youth 24 and under. Drop in assistance, meals and transitional housing as well as
the Life Works Mentoring Project.
” is a community of masculine of center womyn, men, two-spirit people, transmen, and our allies committed to transforming our privilege of masculinity, gender, and race into tools for achieving Racial and Gender Justice”.
“The intersections of race, gender, sexuality and class impact the lives of transpeople of color in complex and unique ways. Our voices have often been ignored, appropriated, marginalized, or silenced. TPOCC seeks to break that cycle and empower our community by building a pipeline of activists and advocates to engage and connect with one another to create a holistic movement of support, resources, and education by and for transpeople of color”.
Toolkit for Trans youth
Advocating for safer schools, bathroom rights, antiharrassment etc. lambdalegal.org/bending-the-mold
LGBT STUDENT RIGHTS
Mom, I Need To Be a Girl:
Written by the mom of a transsexual child who transitioned– including surgery — with mom’s help while still in high school. The book is available free at the web site in multiple langues and formats available HERE and in a 140-page 2nd ed. in English, available at booksurge.com
LGBTQ WEB RESOURCES
Advocates for Youth: Great web resource with articles, links to support and information for youth and youth educators and advocates for queer youth.
Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network: providing information and advocacy to youth, opportunities for youth led advocacy in the educative environment.
Los Angeles Gay & Lesbian Center: See youth services for groups, counseling and shelter for homeless LGBT youth.
Center for LGBT community in Long Beach. Youth Mentoring Program: MYTE.
Youth Resource: Created by and for LGBTQ youth. List of youth groups, peer groups, gay straight alliances, according to region.
Out Proud: Online information on coming out, coming out stories, peer support.
COLAGE is a national movement of children, youth, and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parents.
National Youth Advocacy Coalition is a national social justice organization working with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) young people to strengthen the role of young people in the LGBTQ rights movement.
Brochure on coming out to your parents. Support and safety are essential. If you need help taking these steps, please contact myself, or one of the support resources listed here.
ABOUT.com’s section on GLBT basics for teens.
El objetivo de ésta página es servir como fuente de información en español sobre temas de psicología afirmativa LGBT (Lesbiana, Gay, Bisexual y Transgénero). Este proyecto inició como una actividad de la asignatura Acción Comunitaria LGBT dentro del programa de la Maestría en Psicología Clínica y de la Especialidad LGBT de la Universidad Antioch Los Ángeles
BOOKS FOR LGBT YOUTH
Letters For My Brothers
In today’s fast paced world, the internet can provide quick and easy answers to personal questions. But when an individual raised by society to live, breathe and look at the world through a female lens transitions to male, some of the most enlightening, helpful and profound advice can only come in retrospect. Letters for my Brothers features essays from respected trans men mentors who share the wisdom they wish they would have known at the beginning of their journey into manhood.
Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws.
I HIGHLY recommend this book! Kate is funny and honest about the challenges of living in the world as a Gender Outlaw, someone who does
not “fit the norm”. She has a new book out….
A Queer and Present Danger
“The true story of a nice Jewish boy who joins the Church of Scientology and leaves twelve years later to become the lovely lady she is today ”
FOR PARENTS & MENTORS OF LGBTQ YOUTH
Recent media attention to the dire and deadly effects of homophobic bullying have shed light on the trauma to youth.
LGBT youth are FOUR TIMES AS LIKELY TO ATTEMPT SUICIDE as their straight peers. When parents are rejecting of their child that risk DOUBLES. (Family Acceptance Project, Ryan, 2009) The FAP also found that parental support was tied to overall adjustment and health for LGBT youth.
Your relationship with your child is a critical factor in their well being and adjustment as they come out. It can be challenging for you as a parent when your child comes out. Talking to other parents who have been there can really help. Here are some resources for you to explore and links to support groups. Family Therapy can also be helpful. To find a family therapist in your area who is LGBT affirming:
www.gaylesta.org in Northern California
www.lagpa.org in Southern California
Support, information and advocacy for parents of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Youth. Meetings nationwide. Visit the website
to find one near you.
Parents page on the Advocates for Youth website-dedicated to supporting educators, parents, youth with critical risk reduction information.
Always My Child: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Questioning Son or Daughter by Kevin Jennings and Pat Sha
Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund
TLDEF is committed to ending discrimination based upon gender identity and expression and to achieving equality for transgender people through public education, test-case litigation, direct legal services, community organizing and public policy efforts. http://www.transgenderlegal.org/