Coming Out? You Are Not Alone!

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Here are some places you can connect to support, information and resources. This can be a very tough time, but you do not have to go through it alone. The most important step is to commit to your own well-being and safety. If you are being  bullied, harassed or facing being kicked out of your home, here are some ways you can connect to safety and support.

Come out to yourself.

This means acknowledging what is true for you at this point and reminding yourself that who you are is unique and beautiful even if you don’t yet fully feel that way. As you learn more, you will discover that you are not alone. A great place to learn about how others came out from all over the country is the I’m From Driftwood project.

Come out to a safe person.

This could be a close friend, a parent, a teacher or mentor. If you do not feel you have someone safe, consider connecting
with a school counselor, or  look for a Gay and Lesbian Center in your area through a google search. I’ve included lots of
links below so keep reading!

All of us in the community are here to support you, because we are dedicated to the cause of making this a safer and
more equal world for LGBT people.

Are you being bullied?
The Make It Better Project outlines your rights and the action you can take NOW.
You have a right  to an education without harassment and this page will take you through the action steps to
address your situation.

National Toll Free & Confidential Hotline for LGBT and Questioning Youth
24 Hour Support: Suicide Hotline



Center Long Beach Youth Services:social activities, skillbuilding, youth support groups and peer mentoring for lgbt youth.

Gay and Lesbian Center OC: weekly support group for youth ages 16-24.

Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center provides a broad range of services for the LGBT community including
free and low cost mental health and health care, HIV testing and many legal, social and cultural resources.

Jeff Griffith Youth Center and Transitional Housing
For LGBT youth 24 and under. Drop in assistance, meals and transitional housing as well as
the Life Works Mentoring Project.






Advocates for Youth: Great web resource with articles, links to support and information for youth and youth educators and advocates for queer youth.
Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network: providing information and advocacy to youth, opportunities for youth led advocacy in the educative environment.
Los Angeles Gay & Lesbian Center: See youth services for groups, counseling and shelter for homeless LGBT youth.
Center for LGBT community in Long Beach. Youth Mentoring Program: MYTE.
Youth Resource: Created by and for LGBTQ youth. List of youth groups, peer groups, gay straight alliances, according to region.
Out Proud: Online information on coming out, coming out stories, peer support.
COLAGE is a national movement of children, youth, and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parents.
National Youth Advocacy Coalition is a national social justice organization working with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) young people to strengthen the role of young people in the LGBTQ rights movement.
Brochure on coming out to your parents. Support and safety are essential. If you need help taking these steps, please contact myself, or one of the support resources listed here.’s section on GLBT basics for teens.

El objetivo de ésta página es servir como fuente de información en español sobre temas de psicología afirmativa LGBT (Lesbiana, Gay, Bisexual y Transgénero). Este proyecto inició como una actividad de la asignatura Acción Comunitaria LGBT dentro del programa de la Maestría en Psicología Clínica y de la Especialidad LGBT de laUniversidad Antioch Los Ángeles


Figuring It Out by N.S.B.
An anonymously written “journal” of a young woman trying to figure out her sexuality.

Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and their Allies (1996) by Ellen Bass


Recent media attention to the dire and deadly effects of homophobic bullying have shed light on the trauma to youth.

LGBT youth are FOUR TIMES AS LIKELY TO ATTEMPT SUICIDE as their straight peers. When parents are rejecting of their child
that risk DOUBLES. (Family Acceptance Project, Ryan, 2009) The FAP also found that parental support was tied to overall adjustment
and health for LGBT youth.

Your relationship with your child is a critical factor in their well being and adjustment as they come out. It can be challenging for you as a parent when
your child comes out. Talking to other parents who have been there can really help. Here are some resources for you to explore and links to support
groups. Family Therapy can also be helpful. To find a family therapist in your area who is LGBT affirming:  in Northern California in Southern California Nationwide

Support, information and advocacy for parents of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Youth. Meetings nationwide. Visit the website
to find one near you.
Parents page on the Advocates for Youth website-dedicated to supporting educators, parents, youth with critical risk reduction information.

Always My Child: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Questioning Son or Daughter by Kevin Jennings and Pat Shapiro

I also recommend you check out the websites for youth as they contain many helpful articles on sexuality, coming out and provide a helpful understanding of lgbt issues among teens.

For further information and links regarding youth who are gender variant, non-conforming, questioning, or transgendered, please visit my website:
**Please note that this list is for information only. I do not endorse these organizations, nor do I benefit from providing their information here Please contact me if you have a resource to suggest.
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Lesbian Affirming Therapist

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A Lesbian Affirming Therapist


As a therapist, I work from a humanistic, feminist and lesbian affirming perspective. I draw on a both traditional psychotherapy models  as well as experiential techniques to build a therapeutic environment for each of my clients based upon their individual needs and goals. I am committed to working with you, to build on your strengths and  to helping you identify and achieve your life goals. 

Each person has  unique and individual journey that  has brought them to the questions that they wrestle with today. Each person  comes into their identity in their own way and depending upon where you are in your journey, we take up the work with sensitivity to your particular concerns, conflicts and goals.

Finding an affirming therapist matters.

Lesbians, Gay Men, Bisexual and Transgendered and Queer identified people benefit most from a therapist who is informed and affirming LGBTQ identity and relationships.  As oppressed sexual minorities, LGBT people experience minority stress which impacts our mental health, our relationships and our self esteem.
Outcomes of therapy improve when working with a therapist who has the training and skills to  approach therapy with an affirming perspective on LGBT identity.

Affirming you as an LGBT person means that:

  • You are in the best possible position to define yourself.
  • You are entitled to explore your identity and sexuality 
  • supporting your coming out process at a pace that is healthy for you
  • exploring the intersection between culture, ethnicity, family of origin and sexuality/gender

Working from an affirming perspective in therapy means that:

  • we look at your current life struggle or symptom through the lens of your identity development as an LGBT personin addition to other models such as Family Systems, Psychodynamic, Attachment and Cognitive/Behavioral
  • assisting you in reducing any shame or stigmatizing beliefs associated with your identity
  • we draw together on your strengths and assets as a human being; not just your “problems”

Train with Lisa to Learn about Affirmative Therapy with LGBT Clients

How Do I Find an LGBT Affirming Therapist?

A great place to begin your search is your local LGBT Center. You can also check these searchable data bases for a listing in your area:

Southern California
The Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association

Northern California
The Gay and Lesbian and Transgender Association

Nationwide Listings
Psychology Today

For More Information on LGBT Affirmative Therapy and Training:

References used for this page:


Crisp, Catherine (2006) The Gay Affirmative Practice Scale: a new measure for assessing cultural competence with gay and lesbian clients”.
Journal of Social Work. Volume 51. Number 2.


Crisp, Catherine(2007) ‘Correlates of Homophobia and Use of Gay Affirmative Practice Among Social Workers’, Journal of Human Behavior in the Social Environment, 14: 4, 119 — 143

Davies, D. (1996), Towards a model of gay affirmative therapy. In D. Davies & C. Neal (Eds.), Pink therapy: A guide for counselors and therapists working with lesbian, gay and bisexual clients (pp. 24-40). Philadelphia: Open University Press.


Kort, J. (2008). Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician. New York. Norton Press.



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